With the self-imposed and much necessary isolation, I know a lot of you may be facing loneliness, especially if you’re not used to having people around you to keep you distracted.

Loneliness creeps in like a looming ghost from which you want to run as fast as you can.

Loneliness is a feeling. And just like any other feeling, it needs to be acknowledged. It’s not easy, especially if one is not trained to deal with emotions through mindfulness practice.

Resisting a feeling makes it stronger. So imagine. Every time you run from feeling emotions that are uncomfortable, you’re only making them stronger. And because they have become stronger, they start to have more and more power over you. They control your mind. They make you run away from you. It is the ego self that wants to run to immediately “protect” you from that scary feeling, and each time you listen to that instead of listening to yourself, the ego wins and you lose.

Feelings are what make life worthwhile. Remember your most cherished memory and think – what made it so memorable? You will feel warm and fuzzy. You will notice that the memory had a strong wonderful emotion attached to it, which is why it is dear to you.

If you learn to just sit with your feelings a little longer, allow yourself to receive them and feel them fully, you will have one of the most profound transformations. As you repeat this process, over time you will notice that loneliness or any other uncomfortable emotion won’t bother you as much.

How to handle loneliness:

  1. Sit down with your back upright (against a wall or in your chair)
  2. Take long slow deep belly breaths for 3-5mins.
  3. Greet the feeling: Hello loneliness.
  4. Talk to your feelings: How are you? Is there something you would like to tell me?
  5. Just wait, and listen to what it wants to tell you.
  6. Be patient.
  7. Thank and acknowledge your feelings.

Step 6 is important because if you’ve never practiced listening to your feelings, it may take a while before they actually speak to you. They have been ignored too long. This is why being patient is going to help you.